Pushing Through When Life is Hard
Today I feel inspired to share about my INSANELY CRAZY week from the beginning of this month. Sabotage hit at full force and was relentless. It just seems like hard times are never ending and life is not letting up. So I want to speak to sabotage and pushing through those hard times.
Fight or Flight EVERY Day
So let me paint the picture for you. Last week I had a packed week after coming back from vacation. It was a full schedule with 50 mothers days sessions, content day, and regular family sessions. I knew how my week was going to go, but what I did NOT KNOW was that on Monday I was going to end up with a torn ligament in my ankle – probs will need surgery from that. The next day I popped a rib out, and this was 10 hours before I was meeting 50 moms and their children for mothers day sessions. Content day was two days later, and by now you probably know about my phobia/insane fear of throw up. Well someone threw up at content day and that just sent me. But then three days later, my son got bit by a dog and that was a whole episode filled with emergency doctor appointments.
There was something at least everyday that sent me into flight or fight. I had no idea what was up with the week, but it reminded me of the importance of mindset work to get through the sabotaging moments.
Make the Choice to Stop Living in Negative Space
When everything’s going wrong, it’s easy to forget the mindset stuff and go straight into survival mode. And that’s where I was during that insane week. Eventually I made the decision to get up early, do my mindset work so I didn’t have to keep living in that negative space.
Get Out of Sabotage
Don’t let life happen to you! Be proactive and put your mindset first. Here’s some things you need to do to get out of sabotage:
1 – Up your morning routine and in that morning routine focus on mindset work.
What things will make you feel more zen and grounded? Put them on your schedule every morning before your kids wake up and you have to go to work.
2 – Use gratitude to pull you out of your dark place.
If you don’t already have it in your mindset work, add in a gratitude practice everyday. It really has the power to help you shift your mindset away from the bad and towards the good.
3 – Recognize your cycles.
What do you do when life spirals? Do you get super depressed, unmotivated and stop everything to lay in bed all day or watch Netflix? It’s super important to understand what that is so you can catch yourself. If you can do that, it stops sabotage in its tracks.
After I had Piper, I was in a bad place and would go on a Netflix binge because that was how I coped. After I had Roe, I made a rule that I wouldn’t do Netflix. Because that was just me turning off my feelings and getting sucked into a binge to try to help me forget how I was feeling and my situation. But it would really just make me feel worse. I want entertainment and pleasure out of watching shows, not depression and a worse mental state.
4 – Don’t carry the energy forward.
That’s exactly what I was doing last week: taking a bad day and rolling it into the next bad day and turning a bad moment into a bad day into a bad week into a bad life. It was just snowballing.
You are just sabotaging yourself when you carry forward the anxious energy from a bad moment. So before you go on to the next thing, take some deep breaths or journal it out to release everything. That way a bad moment won’t snowball and ruin your day.
5 – Just keep going and don’t let sabotage win.
My biggest accomplishment through my big crazy week was that I didn’t cancel anything. I kept trekking on. So my last piece of advice is not to give in because there are good things on the other side.
If you’re going through sabotage, you’re not alone. It’s hard and debilitating but you can also see that there are great things happening. When you push through those hard times, there’s goodness on the other side, growth and a life you wouldn’t be able to make on your own.
Trials are going to keep coming, they’re not going to get easier. And it’s frustrating when you’re in the thick of it but I like to remember that the hard things are just molding me into the person I need to be.
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